Biblical counsellors find the problem of pornography to be rampant among men — even among church goers. I admit we do not directly address it much at church, or one to one. But it does come up in my counseling — and I would like to talk with you if it is a problem in your life.
To serve those who need counsel and help in the meanwhile, let me direct you to a fine article (here) by Dr David Powlison, of CCEF in Philadelphia. Of course reading an article is not the solution — but it can point you in the right direction.
One helpful section of his article is excerpted below. You can see that his comments might very well be transfered to other sin problems….
What Does Progress Look Like?
What does progress in your struggle with pornography look like? In all typical human struggles (like anger, anxiety, escapism), winning doesn’t mean achieving perfection. It means having a new goal and a new direction. Your direction in life determines your final destination. Where are you headed? Are you going in the right direction? Going in the right direction in your struggle with pornography means learning to fight your temptation to sin, to handle your guilt when you fail, and to understand and avoid the circumstances in which you are tempted.
Making progress in these three areas does not mean you will suddenly get teleported from the mire in which you now live to the mountaintop of freedom from all temptation. Change in these areas means taking many small, incremental steps in the right direction.
Powlison goes on to identify seven areas in which we can measure progress, and how to address the deeper struggles behind this problem. I highly recommend the article and the CCEF web site. pdb
America’s eyes are increasingly riveted upon political polls, watching for their candidate to pull ahead of the other. The news (good or bad) will affect our feelings for the day, and probably steer our water-cooler conversations down the same avenue.
While I expect all of my fellow believers to be involved in the process of electing our next president (this is a VERY important matter), I cannot help but wonder if we let these things eclipse our confidence and joy in our great and victorious God. When the political news is “bad” for our cause, do we despair? When it is good, do we glow with pride (and put too much “trust in princes”)?
Let’s be redirected and reinvigorated by the Word of God, which speaks about the certainty of the victories of our God! Read, for instance, in Psalm 68. Then anchor your heart to God’s platform and plans for this world.
68:1 God shall arise, his enemies shall be scattered;
and those who hate him shall flee before him!
2 As smoke is driven away, so you shall drive them away;
as wax melts before fire,
so the wicked shall perish before God!
3 But the righteous shall be glad;
they shall exult before God;
they shall be jubilant with joy!
4 Sing to God, sing praises to his name;
lift up a song to him who rides through the deserts;
his name is the Lord;
exult before him!
5 Father of the fatherless and protector of widows
is God in his holy habitation.
6 God settles the solitary in a home;
he leads out the prisoners to prosperity,
but the rebellious dwell in a parched land.
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19 Blessed be the Lord,
who daily bears us up;
God is our salvation. Selah
20 Our God is a God of salvation,
and to God, the Lord, belong deliverances from death.
21 But God will strike the heads of his enemies,
the hairy crown of him who walks in his guilty ways. (esv)