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Myths about Love & Sex — part 2

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How should mature Christians answer some of the common beliefs of a sexually charged culture? By exposing them as myths!

9781576835104As stated in a previous post, excellent help can be found in “How to Stay Christian in College” (Navpress, 1999) by Prof. J. Budziszewski. In chapter 6 he smartly raises and demolishes several common myths young people hold about love and sex. Let me cite the first, and his reply…

MYTH NUMBER TWO: LIKE EVERYTHING ELSE, IN ORDER TO UNDERSTAND SEX YOU HAVE TO EXPERIENCE IT.

It may indeed be true that some things must be experienced to properly understand them, but is this true of “everything”? Budziszewski says,

“But other things in this life aren’t like that at all. Drug addiction is one, suicide is another. Nobody would say that you have to be a drug addict to become wise about drugs; nobody would say that you have to commit suicide in order to find out whether it’s a good idea. In fact, in these cases, experience is the one thing that keeps you from being able to choose wisely about them. Over the centuries, the human race has discovered quite a number of cases like this — behaviors that impair instead of enhance the ability to choose wisely, experiences that subtract from rather than add to understanding. That’s one of the reason they’ve been called sins and vices, and that people have been warned away from them instead of encouraged to try them. Sex outside of marriage is one of these cases.” (p.82)

Score: Truth = 2, Myth = 0.

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Myths about Love & Sex

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9781576835104School’s out and the lazy, hazy days of summer are upon us. And the thoughts of young men and women often turn to love, romance — and sex. How do we mature Christians guide them through the mine field of emotions and the maze of sexual myths?

Excellent help can be found in “How to Stay Christian in College” (Navpress, 1999) by Prof. J. Budziszewski. In chapter 6 he smartly raises and demolishes several common myths young people hold about love and sex. Let me cite the first, and his reply…

MYTH NUMBER ONE:
LOVE IS A FEELING, AND SEX IS THE ADULT WAY TO EXPRESS IT.

Have you ever wondered why when people get married, they promise to love each other until death? Think about it. Feelings change. You can’t promise to have a feeling. So if love is a feeling, the marriage vow makes no sense at all. But the vow odes make sense because love is not a feeling. What is it , then? Love is a commitment of the will to the true good of another person. Love, let me repeat, is a commitment of the will to the true good of another person.

Now the outward expression and seal of a commitment of the will is a binding promise. So the adult way to express love is to enter into a binding promise — and that’s what we call marriage. “If you really loved me,” some people say, “you’d do it with me.” Baloney. If he really loved you, he wouldn’t demand it. If she really loved you, she wouldn’t either.

Score: Truth = 1, Myth = 0.

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